Finding comfort in our blessings

Sometimes when we stop and look at how far we have come, the blessings can become evident as we chronicle our journeys. We can find comfort in those blessings.

Recently, I came upon this picture that took me back to a memorable trip.  

When my husband turned 50, I surprised him with a trip to his birthplace, Charleston, South Carolina. We spent five days reminiscing about his childhood and exploring a beautiful city together. At that time, we had been married for six years. 

I remember knowing I had come so far in my journey. Before we met, I never thought I would meet anyone who would love me and “get me.” My divorce had hurt so much. It felt like it had taken part of me and crushed it. I had felt so defeated, and many times I questioned if I would ever meet anyone who would love me just for me. 

I look at the woman in that picture, and I no longer see that woman who was trampled by the devastation of a divorce. In her stance, I see strength and courage. Her eyes speak joy, while her smile alludes confidence. In her presence, I feel energy fueled by gratitude for the blessings she has received. 

There was such a joy that I felt on that trip. The joy of being with a man who understood me cherished me, and loved me for me. He accepted my flaws, encouraged my dreams, and embraced the beauty he saw in me. 

My divorce had pushed me down and made me feel ashamed and unworthy. There was a time when I thought no one would ever love me. I prayed for a man who would selflessly love me and see the beauty in me—one who would challenge me and push me to follow my dreams. I needed a man who would support me in all I did and love me despite my flaws. 

When he came into my life, I realized God answered my prayers. He gave me what I needed and what I prayed for.  

I also realized that although my divorce pushed me down, it lifted me. It made me stronger and more independent. From it, I became more confident. That is why this picture is so important because that is the woman whom I see. 

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction and faithful in prayer.- Romans 12:12

No matter the challenge, whether it is a divorce or something else, you can and will overcome it. If you allow yourself to feel it and rise above it, it will make you stronger. Feeling joy amidst the pain helps you notice the goodness surrounding you and find comfort in those blessings. God does have a plan for you. Trust in His plan and pray about what you need. Pray for guidance, strength, and courage to take another step. Sometimes, you may feel that you can’t, but do not forget He is always with you and will give you what you need to keep moving forward. 

My journey is still evolving. There are times when the memories of my past cause me to feel unworthy and insecure, but I have to look back at the moments like that trip and remember just how far I have come. 

For the past 19 years, I have found comfort in the multitude of blessings that have filled my life with joy. There are countless blessings to be thankful for.